A New Look at Potty Training – Part 4
by Karen DeBord, Ph. D.
Courtesy NNCC
Human Sexuality Implications
Toilet mastery is a part of a lifelong process of learning about the body and its functioning. Adults’ attitudes toward genitals and the natural process of toilet learning have an important influence on children’s developing feelings about their bodies and taking responsibility for bodily needs.
Make certain the child has observed a parent or trusted adult using the toilet. Answer questions in a relaxed manner. Toilet learning accomplished in a calm and positive way is an important support for lifelong appreciation of human sexuality.
Young children feel pleasure when they urinate or have a bowel movement. They may want to play with their urine or feces. They also may want to examine their own or other children’s genitals when using the toilet. This is normal experimental behavior.
Toilet learning provides a good time to teach correct names for body parts and bodily functions. The goal is to teach children that all parts of the body are good, and bodily functions are natural. Children should also understand that their bodies are private and they can have privacy during elimination.
About the Author:
DeBord, K. (1997). *Toilet learning*. Raleigh, NC: North Carolina Cooperative Extension Service.
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